Use Cocoa Butter to help even out the complexion of your skin tone.

Ever since I was a young girl, I was told that cocoa butter is one of the best natural products for smoothing and evening the skin tone. But for whatever reason, I passed on the advice and ignored that large jar of Palmer's Cocoa Butter that my mother always kept in the bathroom.

Recently, I went on the hunt for a product to even out some blotchy skin imperfections. I searched through countless products in stores and on Amazon, but nothing seemed to be quite right for my brown skin. They all advertise lightening dark marks, but I actually wanted to darken some lighter marks. So I decided to research natural solutions, and lo and behold, what came up on my radar?

I looked more closely at the reviews and found that Palmer's Cocoa Butter has 3 key ingredients -- cocoa, seed butter and dimethicone. Dimethicone smooths and protects the skin. Seed butter is rich in vitamin E and antioxidant power. And cocoa is also rich in antioxidants, keeps the skin looking healthy and can improve the appearance of unsightly marks.

When I opened the jar the scent was familiar and delightful -- a lot like chocolate of course. The texture was firm like shea butter but quickly melted in,the palm of my hand like lotion. I slathered it all over my skin and it instantly made it feel soft and touchable.

I already see some improvements in my skin since using Palmer's Cocoa Butter, including the texture and scent, and I do believe that with consistent use I'll achieve a more even tone. I only wish I had committed to using this nightly in the past. The simplest of solutions can usually be found in nature, growing from God's green earth.

Review by Jamilla
CBL Beauty Review

Could this product mean no more visits to the nail salon for French tips?

I am a bit excited about the product that I'm about to review because it is the first viable alternative that I’ve found to getting French tip acrylics done at a nail salon.

I like French tipped nails. I mean I really like them. They look very feminine and elegant, and they are also functional -- opening up cans/salad dressing bottles and typing is much easier.

I like French tipped nails to the point where I've endured rude nail ladies and nail damaging acrylic applications to get them. This is what acrylic does to your nails:

Yea, no good. Whenever I go to a new nail salon I get into this long and awkward conversation with the nail ladies about how I can get just a tip with a gel application on top. They say it's impossible; that you need to get acrylic. I could never understand why -- I guess because the tips they use aren't strong enough to last with just gel on top.

So I decided to go to a pharmacy and check out the various options they have for French tips. They had a lot of different nails that you can paste on top of your nail but I know from experience that they aren't always very strong and secure.

Suddenly the heavens opened and I saw this product hanging from the display. It was the very last one in stock and cost just $9.99.

It is called Broadway Nails Real Life Brush-On Gel Nail Kit. (There was some type of sticker on it that said it was only available for sale at that store, so it may have been part of some type of trial testing in certain areas.)

The product is super simple to use: 1) apply the tip, 2) apply the first gel coating and then 3) apply the activator on top. There are 48 tips in the box in various sizes with easy applicator tabs. The tabs are numbered and lettered but I didn't understand the system. I just tested the tip over each nail before applying them.

The only part I was confused about was how to stick the tips to the top of your nail so that they stay on while you apply the top coats. I just went and got my fast drying nail glue (glue didn't come in the box). It worked perfectly.

So, when you apply the gel and activator it sets the tip in place and you get this strong semi-thick shiny coating. 

These are the results:

The box says that the activator sets in 5 minutes but I found that it was still a little sticky 10 minutes later. I was in a rush, so I went to the store and bought a fast drying clear topcoat. Applied it, it dried nicely and I was all set.

I got plenty of compliments on my nails -- they really do look like I had them done at a salon. I wore them for a weekend and this was my experience:
  • The tips are firm and durable. I could click around on a keyboard or rap them on a table just like I would with acrylics.
  • As firm as the tips were, they were super easy to file and shape (a good file was provided in the box).
  • The gel and activator do a pretty good job of smoothing the surface so that you don't see where the tip ends on your nail.
  • I was very happy with the way my nails looked and will be using this whenever I want French tips. 
There were some drawbacks:
  • The activator and gel stained easily so I had to keep scrubbing the tips whenever I got makeup or something on them. Another solution to the staining was to lightly file the top of the tip and reapply the gel, activator and top coat.
  • A few of the tips started to come off on the second day but all I had to do was pick out another couple of tips (or reapply the same ones) with the glue more securely and do the process over again. I decided to get a better nail glue (the glue I used at first was a cheaper brand) and they were a lot more secure.
  • The nails don't last as long as acrylics. Whereas I can wear acrylics for 2+ weeks without a problem, these will, at best, last a week before cracking or coming off.
  • When you reapply nails that came loose, you can see the line where they separated from the gel. If that bothers you remove the gel and do the nail over again.

Removal: I tried removing one nail completely to see how that process would go. Just soak the nail in polish remover for a minute or two and wipe or file the layer of gel and activator off. The one thing I can't comment on just yet is how your nails will look underneath after a while of wearing these (gel can be a little harsh on the nails as well), but I have a feeling it is not going to be as harsh on my nail bed as the acrylic. I will update this post in the future.

As I said, I was in a rush to do my nails on this day so I think they will come out even better when I have a moment to sit down and take my time with them. 

So basically I got the pretty French nails that I wanted for about $10 plus $6 for the top coat and the cost of nail glue.  About $20 should cover me for 2 or 3 applications. Compare that to spending $50 or more at a salon for acrylics or a silk wrap with $25 fill-ins.

Valuable tips if you’re planning to try this nail system as an alternative to going to the salon:

- Set aside plenty of time to do your nails in peace, without any possibility of touching anything for at least an hour.
- Get a good nail glue, like this one, that dries in 5 seconds.
- Get a good shiny top coat (this is the exact one I used) that seals and dries quickly.
- Set the tip lower on your nail bed than I did so that it has room to grow.
- Apply the gel and activator liberally to ensure it is coated well.
- Don’t apply lipstick, foundation or any other makeup until the nails are completely dried.
- If you're going to do dishes while wearing these, wear rubber gloves.

There's one more perk: if you're not a French tip lover like me and just want clean nails that you can paint with your favorite polish, half of the tips in the box are clear.

4 stars out of 5, mostly due to the good looks and great price.

Here is a comparison review of 3 deep dark red lipsticks that I found at my local pharmacy. Guess which one I liked the best...

I haven't worn lipstick in what seems like ages -- maybe because I couldn't find the right color, maybe because I was tired of it staining my teeth and shirts, I'm not sure.

For some reason lately I've been inspired to start wearing lipstick again. I've seen a lot of fly sisters rocking that deep dark red lately and it got my attention. So I decided to try out a few from a pharmacy -- Black Opal Color Splurge in Wine Not, Black Radiance #5033 (Midnight Glow) and Milani Chocolate Berries

Here are the results:

Black Opal Colorsplurge in Wine Not

This one was nice and supple on my lips, but I had to put a lot of coats on before it took on that deep darker red color. Nice matte texture. Looking at the pictures now I probably should have put on a few more coats. Had some trouble with it getting on my teeth at first (maybe I just put too much on at the inside lip).

I was pleasantly surprised by Black Radiance, because it was the most affordable brand out of the three (I think it was on sale for under $3) It had a very smooth application and complete coating of the lips without much effort. Really nice matte finish but still a bit of a shine. Kept my lips feeling moist and gives me that perfect deep red that I was looking for.

Milani in Chocolate Berries

I liked the color of the Milani lipstick, but I wasn't too crazy about the application/coverage. Also, after looking at it on my lips I wouldn't count this as a deep dark red, more of a brown. Darkened crumbly skin made it look one of those 99 cent lipstick brands at first, but after a bit of adjustment it smoothed out. It's a nice neutral color.

My pick: I really liked all three of these lipsticks (something that almost NEVER happens when I shop for cosmetics at a pharmacy) but out of the three the Black Radiance stood out. It's soft, that ideal sensual red and it keeps my lips feeling moist.

What do women really mean when they say "my natural hair just isn't for me?"

When I went natural a few years ago, I did so with one bold statement ringing in my head:

"I'm doing it, and I don't give a ___ what anyone else thinks about it !"

And I meant it. I don't care what anyone in my life or beyond says about my decision to embrace my natural hair.

I've read a few articles recently where the author admits "I tried to go natural but I decided to get a relaxer last week." The majority of them have one thing in common: someone said something about their natural hairdo and they broke.

Let's be honest about natural hair and black people, particularly men. You have to be a black woman who really doesn't care what most black people, especially men, think about what you choose to do with you hair. If you will take it personally when someone makes a sly remark or laughs behind your back; if you will let a man who's obsessed with long straight hair to make you feel bad about your tightly coiled strands in the bathtub; if you secretly envy your girlfriend after she puts a fresh relaxer in her hair; you are probably not going to truly be able to embrace your natural hair yet. But that doesn't mean that what you weren't given natural isn't meant for you.

Going and staying natural is as much a change in mentality as it is a change in how you choose to wear your hair. It's a realization that maybe those chemicals in perms aren't good for your body. It's an acknowledgement that the mainstream belief that straight hair is "right" is really based in the idea that having white features is better than natural black features.

Wearing natural hair is like putting up the black fist without having to put your hand in the hair. People of all races (including blacks) can ridicule you if they want but either way they are forced to respect your stand.

White, Asian and Latino men and women really have bought into the idea that black women desperately want to look like them. So when they see you rocking that 'fro, shining in the sunlight, "they can't touch this." Now, some of them are trying to fluff their hair out to look like afros, dreadlocking their hair and wearing corn rows.

Black men have bought into the idea that black women hate themselves (which is ironic since many of them are responsible for the shaming of African features on women throughout the years) but when they see a beautiful woman who has embraced her natural look, they have no choice to RESPECT it. They won't dare tell a proud natural girl something  to her face other than "I love your hair sis."

They are forced to respect someone who respects her own natural beauty.

I'm not here to shame women who choose to relax their hair -- it's your hair and it's your prerogative to wear exactly as you like. I just have an issue with the statement that "natural hair is just not for me." How can we say that, while countless non-black women embrace their "natural hair" without a problem. Although you may choose to alter it one way or another, your natural self is ALWAYS for you.

Easy Way to Get Dry, Crunchy 4C Natural Black Hair to Soften Up.

My hair's a little weird. Good thing I like being weird :P

My lovely natural hair is 4a at the front and mother Africa 4c at the back. I love it, yet as you can imagine, it's a little difficult getting styles to come together sometimes.

When I blow out my hair, the top is soft, fluffy and holds moisture well while the back comes out hard, crunchy and dry. The ends of the 4C hair literally crackle in my fingers after blow drying.

I want to start wearing fluffy blown out A. Davis afros more, so I needed to figure out a quick way to get the 4c part to cooperate. Here is what I did to get the two areas to blend better and soften/moisturize the 4C hair:


- about a half cup of distilled or spring water
- a little bit of extra virgin olive oil in a cup

Easy peasy.

Step 1: I put some distilled spring water in my hand and massaged it generously into the dry 4C areas (you can use a spray bottle if you prefer). Literally like 5 minutes later the hair was dry again, so it's obviously a general moisture problem. My 4C hair was just thirsty!!

Step 2: Make small sections in the hair that is dry, dip your fingers in the olive oil and rub it in gently.

Step 3: Separate the small section into two strands and twist it up (the basic two strand twist). If you can, roll it into a Bantu knot. Do this all over the dry 4C hair.

Step 4:  put a conditioning cap on your head and let it sit for about 30 mins (I still want my fluffy fro, not curls for this style so didn't want the Bantu knots in for too long).

Step 5: Unravel the twists and comb out gently with a wide toothed comb.

The olive oil helps seal in the moisture. After I did this, both the 4A and 4C areas of my hair felt the same. Soft and fluffy. 

Now if I can only find the right headband or flower to wear with my Angela Davis afro...

The Classy Black Lady's review of St. Ives Blemish & Blackhead Control Apricot Scrub

This stuff is pretty great.

St Ives Blemish & Blackhead Control
St Ives Blemish & Blackhead Control

I think I tried a St. Ives product in the past but I was underwhelmed with the results. I guess that caused me to write off all St Ives products from then on.

After finishing off my last facial cleansing product, I decided that I needed something new. I was prepared to lay out some real cash on an expensive department store cleanser if necessary, because I didn't like how uneven and blotchy my skin was at that time. I came across St. Ives Blemish and Blackhead Control Apricot Scrub while browsing Amazon and saw all of the great reviews. It was only a few bucks so I decided to give it a try. I had black marks around some areas of my face which weren't really blackheads but I figured it might still work. I almost returned it because it said it was for acne, which wasn't really my complexion issue. Glad I didn't.

This scrub cleanses and exfoliates better than any other facial cleanser that I have ever tried. It has faded some of the dark marks on my face and neck. My complexion became clearer and more even-toned.

What's funny is that I didn't even realize it was working until one day I looked in the mirror and my face was almost glowing. I said WOW.

So I just wanted to take a minute to share my review of this simple, inexpensive product for people who are looking for a new facial cleanser. Before you spend $50 or more on a department store product, try St. Ives Blemish & Blackhead Control Apricot Scrub first.


When you go natural, one of the wonderful things you'll learn is that you can make your own products to use on your hair. After all, the main ingredients in many products for natural black hair are natural oils.

Olive Oil
Olive oil is good for more than just Italian cooking -- use it on the hair to soften, moisturize, deep condition and add a beautiful shine to your hair.

Pure Shea Butter
Pure raw shea butter, which comes from the Shea nut, does great things for natural black hair. It protects the hair from breakage and the sun's rays. It also repairs damage/breakage.  It also provides Vitamin F, which is needed for healthy hair. 

Coconut Oil
At room temperature, coconut oil is thick and creamy. It is great for strengthening, protecting, conditioning and growing your natural black hair.

Sweet Almond Oil
Sweet almond oil helps keeps moisture in your hair and gives it a healthy shine.

Jojoba Oil
Jojoba oils helps stop/prevent breakage and promotes continuous growth.

Tea Tree Oil
Tea tree oil cleans residue off your scalp, including dandruff, to give your hair the freedom to grow long and healthy more quickly.

Avocado Oil
Avocado oil is good for moisturizing, conditioning and strengthening your natural black hair.

Castor Oil 
A spoonful of castor oil may have been a hard pill to swallow in your childhood, but you may be pleasantly surprised to learn that it helps make your hair grow!

Rosemary Oil
Helps hair to grow, strengthens the hair and gives it a beautiful shine.

Safflower Oil
Promotes faster hair growth and moisturizes.

Argan Oil
If you're having problems with hair breakage and heat damage, Argan oil is also great for natural black hair. It also gives your hair shine, boosts elasticity, seals in moisture and promotes growth.

** When making their own homemade products, some naturalistas also like to add a drop or two of essential oils (like lavender, rosemary, and peppermint) to their mixture to make it more fragrant. Keep in mind that essential oils need to be diluted properly to avoid skin irritation.

Happy mixing!