It’s sad how some black women talk about their hair. 

When I first decided to go all the way natural in my first declarative post I said that I wouldn’t become what others call a “natural hair nazi.” And I still stand by that…

But now, as I read certain posts and comments from certain black women regarding hair I’m starting to see why some natural hair divas have been going off all these years.

Some of these chicks who go natural know they need to throw a relaxer up in that head!

On Twitter, paraphrased, but yea this is one comment I read recently. It took everything in me to not go all naturalnazi on this one girl! I know it’s straight up ignorance, but man where did this start and God where will it end?

Who taught these young girls that the kinky curly hair that grows out of their head by way of nature is ugly or need fixing? Why aren’t they ashamed of the fact that they are ashamed of their own God-given hair?

I cringe when I see young girls and women walking around with hair that is relaxed within an inch of its life, looking lifeless, uneven and damaged, because they so want it to be straight. When even one trace of kinkiness grows out their heads they rush to get back to having “good hair.”

Good hair isn’t hair that is bone straight even when you get out of a pool—good hair is healthy, strong and grows long no matter its state.

Good hair is not broken off edges because of wearing lace front wigs and too-tight weaves or heat damaged ends because of going overboard with a flat iron. Good hair is when all of your edges and ends are in place, exactly where they should be.

Good hair is shiny and has great elasticity (doesn’t break easily). Good hair is versatile, meaning you can put it in a wide variety of styles that look great, whether straight, curly, wavy or in a neat updo. Good hair is good without the need for chemicals to change the way it looks. Good hair comes in black, white, yellow and brown.

Alright, I’m off my soapbox. But I just pray for the day that more young black women get this wake up call and see the beauty in natural hair as well as relaxed looks if that's what they choose! Also that they learn how to take care of their relaxed hair more successfully. 

Don’t knock what you don’t understand yet.

In the meantime, I’m happy to hear that natural hair companies owned by blacks are starting to take more market share in the black hair industry as reported at Clutch Magazine this week. 

Remember this lil post I put out a year or so ago? It's ringing more and more true as each day passes. Please people, let’s use this as an opportunity to keep some money in our community for once!  Learn from the past!




  1. Anonymous On May 18, 2012 at 2:55 PM

    I agree with most of what you said however I choose to have my hair slighlty relaxed (yuck hate the super straight look) and that is what works for me....I work out everyday and believe it or not I have found my permed hair is more manageable. That does not make me less black, a wanna be, doesnt mean I love myself...Its JUST HAIR lol...I would rather eat right and have a healthy body than make some kind of faux statement of my blackness to appease some people (not all but some who bug me about going natural as they eat their burgers and squeeze into their size 16 jeans). Now obesity among black that is something worth talking about.

      Anonymous On May 18, 2012 at 2:56 PM

    Sorry intended to say doesnt mean "I don't love myself"

      CB Lady On May 18, 2012 at 4:47 PM

    hey anonymous!

    I just want to clarify, I do not knock anyone for choosing to continue using relaxers nor do I think they're less authentically black. The issue is with women who feel the need to put down women who choose to wear natural styles because they still have the twisted mentality that kinky hair is bad hair.

    Thank you for your comment!


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